The Conversation

For your reading pleasure, I present an exchange i had the other day with a 'friend' of mine, in it's unadulterated, nutball glory. You will be tested later, so try to identify the points when I:
a) listened attentively
b) tried to help
c) got pissed
d) didnt care any more.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

my mum n sis went crazy n they are taking out everything on the clueless me

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

they claim its cos im a disgrace n they dun want me anymore...

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

......

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

apparently i haf a "white bf" n they've enuf of my shit

Marwan says:

really

Marwan says:

wow

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

wow

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

Marwan says:

isnt their position pretty tenous really also

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

..........

Marwan says:

wow as in wht the hell

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

yeah but they keep assuming all the wrong things n being unfair....if they dun pay for my nxt 2 semesters im fucked...im gonna haf to beg.......for accomodation i can afford myself.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i'll write to the sporean papers if i haf to.

Marwan says:

what are they assuming

Marwan says:

and why wont they pay

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

they r assuming im all havoc n im just like my dad...so they dun want to do anything with me

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

n they think i haf some white trash bf..

Marwan says:

well then you have to drop him

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

im 20 n i dun see y my mums trippin out on me

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i didnt even say he was "white"....i accidently told my sis....who's been a multiple stabber.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

n he's got nothin to do with them...i think i shud haf the freedom...if they still trip out then its them tat need help dun u think

Marwan says:

yes but at the moment you still need them

Marwan says:

so sacrifices have to be made sometimes

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

wat diff would it make is the thing

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the worst thing is they cant get me at night...n they think im partyin...but i actually work all night like a slave....but i cant tell em...cos they wont approve either..

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

ah....enuf of my fucked up life

Marwan says:

so what do you want to do

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

im gonna just move.

Marwan says:

and what about parents

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

then i'll ask my dad directly...only for the remainin sem fees...tts wat im plannin...no need for expenses

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

they dun want me seriously...

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the "ur just havoc' thing is an excuse for them to get rid of one burden

Marwan says:

based on previous evidence, do you think your father will help

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

50% chance he might pay for my remaining semester.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

if not im gonna haf to work n then defer my studies.

Marwan says:

and what will that achieve?

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i can never get enuf to pay for the intl student rate really....

Marwan says:

exactly

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

nothing to achieve...just haf to find a way...im sick of knowing not wat to do

Marwan says:

ok simple solution

Marwan says:

do what you parents want you to do

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

then i will finish my fuckin edu when i haf enuf....

Marwan says:

not worth it

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

u dun understand....even if i do they wont believe cos tts their excuse to push me off

Marwan says:

what do you want me to say

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

my dad doesnt care...he said he wont waste $ on my stupid degree....its not abt if he thinks im what im not

Marwan says:

either way nothing will work so you might as well jump off crown bridge

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

..

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

maybe..

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

im just tellin u...i know there's no solution

Marwan says:

there is always a solution

Marwan says:

sometimes it involves compromise

Marwan says:

which people dont like

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

my prob is that if i compromise with em im stuck with em

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i really want out....im miserable when im with em..

Marwan says:

well no choice at present

Marwan says:

they hold the money

Marwan says:

so you have to do what they want

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

true.

Marwan says:

you are protesting but in the end you are powerless

Marwan says:

so no point wasting time on it

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i dunno wat the protest is abt...becos if they're so against me havin a lil peace of mind fr all of their shit.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

u dunno how unhappy i am at home with em

Marwan says:

thats because it has become a situation

Marwan says:

someone needs to de-escalate

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

yeah maybe

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

fr wat.

Marwan says:

the situation

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

everyone's trippin out on me...this yr ive been quiet n mature n i get more shit.

Marwan says:

mature is not how you are dealing with it

Marwan says:

your mum and dad are going through a very stressful time right now and the best thing you can do is keep your head down

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i did...my sis is the one whos back stabbing n tellin my mum things

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i didnt do anything.

Marwan says:

well then tell them the truth

Marwan says:

tell them about your bf and your job

Marwan says:

and if they dont like it, drop both

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

cannot....becos if i do tt theyd deport me bk immediately.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i rather stay here than go bk to that darkness

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

theyd defer my studies n then send me for some weird pep talk

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

scary.

Marwan says:

the truth cant be hidden

Marwan says:

then drop both and tell them everythings fine

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

they r bastards they wont give me $

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

u dun understand....

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

im not gonna drop anything

Marwan says:

you cant have it every way

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the bf is a lamest excuse for my sis to try to push me out...n

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the job is for me to haf money cos they dun give me

Marwan says:

well drop the bf he is not essential

Marwan says:

what do you need money for

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

he helps me.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

even if my evil sis didnt know abt tt which i blurted out like a crazy idiot....they still wont give money

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

cos they see me as unwanted

Marwan says:

no parent will refuse their daughter money

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

mine do..

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

aiyo no one will believe me..

Marwan says:

you're right

Marwan says:

i dont either

Marwan says:

what do you want

Marwan says:

seriously

Marwan says:

you want a bf but you cant handle the heat that comes with it

Marwan says:

you want money but your parents wont give it and even earning it seems to be a problem

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

its not the bf...i dun even tell anyone details abt the person

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

so how can they hate or say anything

Marwan says:

its because hes white

Marwan says:

i know where they are coming from

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

its abt the money tts all....my personal life does not concern them

Marwan says:

it does concern them because you are their daughter

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i didnt even say what race...they assume n they're mad

Marwan says:

wait a minute

Marwan says:

you said they knew what he was white

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

y is it tt they only concern themselves with all this n not other things...

Marwan says:

what other things should they be concerned about

Marwan says:

the fact that you tend bar at a club

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i said they dunno anything abt the person...

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

nothing at all n they assume...so it shows tt they just find something to kick me off...tts wat hurts me

Marwan says:

why dont you TELL THEM

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

tt is the highest paying part time job

Marwan says:

but it is not *respectable*

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

taking in mind that not everyone gets that job btw....n the reason i haf to do it is also THEM n them fucking up MY life by being idiots

Marwan says:

find a different one

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

fuck respectable....that is one thing they cant comment on now

Marwan says:

it doesnt matter you are INDIAN not australian

Marwan says:

you need their money so you have to follow their rules, its that simple

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

this is very high iM...i can earn $1500 a month

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

if i did more shifts

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

n only 3 days a week..

Marwan says:

that will barely cover rent

Marwan says:

not enough to live on

Marwan says:

what about food school fees

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i know i do....but then they dun wanna give me $ for my expenses.

Marwan says:

then fucking grovel till they give you some money

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i know

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the pt is i haf to beg.

Marwan says:

because you dont have a choice

Marwan says:

everyone has to beg

Marwan says:

i worked my ass off to start a business and still i am 2nd class citizen

Marwan says:

so you do what you have to do

Marwan says:

fuck the pride

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

cos its not like there are rules tt i disobeyed....even if i meditated at home all day

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

id haf the same prob...my dad's doing this cos im the most timid at home...n im the first target.

Marwan says:

it doesnt matter

Marwan says:

you are an adult now so start acting like one and confront them like one

Marwan says:

otherwise be condemned to bitch forever

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

yeah i haf no pride...i stoop to doing manual stuff just for the $...n no one would believe my bkground if i told them

Marwan says:

or go marry this fellow and do whatever you want with your life

Marwan says:

stoop?

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

yeah i wont bitch

Marwan says:

so sorry la...i guess my box carrying must offend you

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

u know u haf to do alot of work...esp at 6am when the place closes.

Marwan says:

let me say this AGAIN

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i do that too

Marwan says:

either give up the job or leave your parents

Marwan says:

either give the bf or leave your parents

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

carry large trays of glasses...i haf bruises all over n i dun mind.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

they shud admire this

Marwan says:

they didnt ask you to do it why should they admire it

Marwan says:

i wouldnt want my daughter to work as a waiter

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

they did....becos they didnt give me $.....my sis is coming up with stories abt me going off with a druggie bf...the pt is he doesnt even smoke or drink.

Marwan says:

they didnt give you money you can find some other profession

Marwan says:

work in a restaurant or somethin

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

if u dun give ur daughter money n u treat her badly she'd do it

Marwan says:

the point is

Marwan says:

are you starving

Marwan says:

are you beggin on the road

Marwan says:

if not, you dont need to do this

Marwan says:

are you honestly trying to tell me you parents send the rent and nothing else?

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

im not given $ n u still dun believe

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

yes

Marwan says:

no i dont

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

n the rent isnt here btw.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

so they plan to pack me off..

Marwan says:

ok even simpler choices

Marwan says:

go back to singapore

Marwan says:

or elope with this nutter here

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

y shud i succumb to them deferring me while my fuckwit sis gets to live in gucci luxury n do her pst grad n never worked ever

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

tt means one child gets everything n the other nothing.

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the pt is i know tt they r finding excuses to send me bk...n i wont go bk....tts y im gonna move out n not tell em where i am.

Marwan says:

you are not exactly suffering yet

Marwan says:

oh thats a very mature way to deal with it

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i might haf to go with this boy....my life's all screwed.

Marwan says:

your life is screwed because you are making foolish decisions

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i haf 2 choices.....

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

stay here or go bk/get deferred/be miserable

Marwan says:

well pick one godamnnit

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

im staying....

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

what would u do

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

go bk n get deferred

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

either way if i go bk its short lived cos my dad will leave real soon n they're gonna be fucked as well.

Marwan says:

if you have to go back, you have to go back

Marwan says:

if i followed your logic

Marwan says:

in 2001 i would have stayed in america

Marwan says:

married the druggie chick

Marwan says:

probably be working as a waiter or a cook and still trying to get a degree, five years later

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

lol

Marwan says:

i am being serious

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

but u had something to go bk to....my whole house is shattered.

Marwan says:

not really

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

its miserable for me to go bk....i'd go insane.

Marwan says:

well tough man

Marwan says:

sometimes life is fucking miserable

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the boy im with is not wild...im the bad one who's straightened up more.

Marwan says:

he really is crazy

Marwan says:

because i'd never in a milliion years go out with you

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

yeah, i feel happy with this person, n i dun see y i shud go bk for something worse for my mind

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

he likes me i guess.....

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

n im better off with this than a miserable family pickin on me

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i didnt ask u to go out with me lol

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

u dunno the real me...

Marwan says:

thank goodness

Marwan says:

i'd prefer not to know the fake you

Marwan says:

or any you, for that matter

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

so mean...but the pt is tts my rationale.

Marwan says:

your rationale is insane

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

u'd give up a better peaceful life for tumultous home

Marwan says:

every home is tumultous

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

mine's shockingly rude.

Marwan says:

you think mine is any different?

Marwan says:

there is no such thing as an ideal peaceful family

Marwan says:

i dont believe that there is some girl out there who will solve all my problems

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

aiyo mine is violent ....crying everyday...

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

going to investigators everyday

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

mad shit

Marwan says:

*everyone* cries and everyone has crazy things happening

Marwan says:

in my short life you wont believe the things that happend to me or the stuff i put my folks through sometimes...and vice versa

Marwan says:

you just have to carry on regardless

Marwan says:

and keep the peace

Marwan says:

cant just take off at the first sign of troulbe

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

too many signs....if u were me u would...trust me..

Marwan says:

the sign of a strong person is that they can withstand it all

Marwan says:

man forget it

Marwan says:

i'm wasting my time here

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i know what u mean

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i want to be happy... i dun think anyone will realise how depressin tt home is

Marwan says:

nobody else will...telling me doesnt help in any way..so you have to sort out your own problems

Marwan says:

where the fuck is your bf right now...what use is he if he can't help

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

he is helping alot...he will move with me...he helps even with $

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

im just tellin u all this....i wont tell other frens cos they dun give a shit or wont believe

Marwan says:

if he is any kind of man he would have called your parents by now

Marwan says:

instead of leaving it all to you

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

he does everything else...the moving the jobs the $...but he doesnt wanna haf anything to do with em...n i dun want to cos if i involve this then im gonna get into shit...dun u think

Marwan says:

no i dont think

Marwan says:

if he doesnt have the balls to talk to your parents then all the money in the world aint shit in my reckoning

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

the issue is not concerning him n he knows its abt the family prob...

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

its obvious its not abt tt.....how cz would it be if ur parents fuck u up for somethin they haf no evidence of...right

Marwan says:

evidence doesnt matter because it is true

Marwan says:

once its out its too late

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

i didnt know my sis would fuck me up

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

lucky i didnt tell the details....i'd be fucked up more

Marwan says:

it doesnt matter now

Marwan says:

you wont get any freedom if you dont fight for it

Marwan says:

and it starts by telling the truth warts and all

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

sigh........

·°• J à | ª p É Ñ ø •°· says:

wats new with u anyway